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Date Joined Jun 2007
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   Posted 10/14/2007 9:51 PM (GMT -6)   
as a mom i have seem to lost myself , i used to care how i looked, now its a quick brush to the hair, no time to style it, i hardly wear makeup, i can't just sit still, i feel like i need to do something, my husband can sit for hours playing on his computer where if i spend a hour it seems to long, does the house need to cleaned clothes to be washed, its like my mind is so busy i can't truly stop and get myself back together, do you know what i mean,

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   Posted 10/15/2007 12:19 AM (GMT -6)   


As I read your post I think back to how it was when I had young children and felt that my life no longer belonged to me as I was in demand by so many.  I often felt frustrated and overwhelmed.  I tried to be the Halmark Mother and I failed miserably as there is no such thing as a Halmark Mom.  We all have to find our own way to be comfortable in our role and still cut out some time for us.

Here are a few ideas.

Take time to just be with your children. Too often, days pass in a rush, do this there blur, and we don't get to spend real time with our families. Take at least a few minutes out of your day to connect with your kids.

Take care of yourself. Whether you think so or not, you are the most important person in your life and deserve to treat your mind and body well. This is also important to your family.  A vast overhaul is not necessary. Just take one small step, such as scheduling an overdue doctor's appointment or adding more of a favorite fruit to your diet.

Don't be so serious. Really! Make sure to put a little fun in your life every chance you get. Read that book you've been meaning to pick up. Put on warm clothes and go sliding. Play a board game and drink hot chocolate (or lemonade in the summer). Take up something new that always looked fun, like kayaking, knitting, or drawing. The point is to remember to focus on the fun in order to offset life's routines.

Resist the urge to become stressed and overwhelmed. Feel like you are overloaded and don't know where to begin? Are you stressed over a situation with work, family or health? Break it down into smaller, manageable chunks. Instead of trying to finish a whole project in an unreasonable amount of time, do one small thing. Tommorow is another day. yeah

I hope this helps you in some little way and I wish for you peace and happiness, but most of all I wish you love.

Hugs galore.

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   Posted 10/15/2007 8:10 AM (GMT -6)   
HI there
NO matter how crappy I feel each day nor how much pain I am in I still take " me " time and put on just a touch of make up and do hair.....dress in nice jeans and a hoody now as its getting cold ......LOL .........I do this for me as I do all else for everyone else ya know
Yep I tried to be the poster Mom too hun and it doesnt work out no matter how hard...
I was severly OCD still bad but not as bad as I was ....and I was exhausted by 5 pm nightly yet still had games to go to kids to drive around lunches to make know the drill........I would finally fall literally into bed by 930 and not even be there for more than a few before I was out like a light
Up and at the SAME routine each day .....

I like Kitt believe in the following line vehemetly

                    " The Best Gift YOU Can Give Your Children Is Your Time"
** BUT ALWAYS make sure to
DO something for YOU...YOU so deserve it ...........

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/15/2007 7:18:34 AM (GMT-6)

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