Anxious about next week + other stuff

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Date Joined Oct 2007
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   Posted 11/15/2007 6:28 PM (GMT -6)   
I start my new job on Monday. I'm getting really anxious about it now. For the past few months I haven't really had any proper responsibility but now I have to be trained up and learn new things and I'm worried I'll be completely useless.
I've also got my fourth driving test next Friday and I'm so worried I'll fail yet again. People really mock me for taking so long to pass and I'm not sure how I'll cope if I fail again because I'll look so stupid. It's frustrating because Iknow I can drive and it's just the fact I get so worked up and anxious that causes me to mess things up during the test. People who function normally just don't understand how much of an effect anxiety can have on things like that and although they make fun of me in a jokey way, inside I kick myself because I'm so fed up with anxiety holding me back.
Also, I'm feeling upset because my acne's flaring up and I've felt fat and ugly all week too. Pre-menstrual blues I suppose.
I've also recently discovered that someone I used to talk to has been pretending for years that he doesn't have a wife and child and has been using the internet to get sexual kicks from the women he meets on there. For some reason it really upsets me that someone could treat his own family like that and get away with it. I just don't understand how people can treat others so horribly and it's unsettled me. Why get married and make a commitment to someone and then deny they exist? It's made me wonder how many people hide their true colours under a false 'nice' persona. How can you ever truly know if someone's genuine or not?
I don't know what I hope to achieve by posting this. It just seems like common sense to talk about it before it all gets on top of me as it has in the past.

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Date Joined Jul 2007
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   Posted 11/15/2007 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello, and Welcome to HW!

It is way normal to feel anxious before a new job. I have a part time job I help my dad with, but I am to nervous to get a real job out in public. Because I dont like to be around alot of people, which causes problems with anyways, I really hope your new job goes well!

And also, for your driving test, its ok that you have had trouble passing it. I know someone who it took them 6 times. And that was because they were a bad driver, not because they were anxious about it. You just have to keep trying. I just turned 16 and I had to go get my license, LUCKILY, my school's Driver's Ed class, the teacher is certified to give us our test and we get a little yellow card and all we have to do is take it to the DMV and give it to them and we get our license. There is no driving with the DMV people! If it weren't for the yellow card, I wouldn't have my license. There is NO way I could drive with them and pass. I would probably flip out and have a huge attack. I would never be able to drive! Luckily, outr teacher is very laid back and cool, he would pass a monkey! Plus, we were running late back to school the day we took our test and I was the last one to drive, so I didn't get to finish my test and he still passed me! I wish you could do the yellow card thing. You are probably a really good driver the anxiety is just holding you back.

I have a hard time trusting people myself. I am just always afraid to be around people. It is hard to tell who people really are. It is really hard for me to talk to people and most definately open up to them. It takes me a VERY long time to trust anyone. There are probably 2 people I really trust that I could really tell anything to. If even 2. So...its hard to tell these days. I am kind of scared of people anyways so trust is an issue for me.

So, this is long enough, I just wanted to say Welcome, I hope your new job goes well, and I hope you keep trying your best on your test. Take Care! yeah

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 11/15/2007 9:58 PM (GMT -6)   


This is Kitt. I so agree with TeNNis.  Starting a new job is always stressful so try not to be to hard on yourself.  Just remember it may take up to six months to become really comfortable in a new position.  If it is not the job for you give yourself permission to discover that and to look for something better fitted to your needs.

The drivers license...............shhhhhhhhh, don't tell anyone and then you won't have to feel bad when they ask how you did. Take a deep breath when you get to the testing site and tell yourself this test will all be behind you in a short time. You will pass eventually and trust me your not the only person that is set on edge by taking the behind wheel test. So again you are normal and deep breathing can do wonders for you.

Talking on line to men that you do not know is not necessarily safe, so I guess I am not surprised it turned out bad so please  try to just let go of the whole situation.  This man is not a safe person for you to associate with.

The internet relationships need to be handled in a safe way so do not give out your personal information to strangers.  Chalk this one off to a error in judgement.

There are good people out there too.

Welcome to our forum and keep posting.  Gentle Hugs



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Date Joined Aug 2007
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   Posted 11/20/2007 4:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Everyone suffers anxiety/stress with a new job. I started a new job back in June (when I was full time) and even when I left home on the train I was stressing out, I never felt myself at all. When I arrived I thought I would calm down, but I didn't. Next morning when I started the job I felt ok, but not myself, then I had a bad panic attack when I was being shown around the manufacturing plant. Bizarrely, which I have never done before, I handed my notice in the next day as it never felt right when I was there. My husband drove 3 hours to collect me and I immediately felt better. Since changing my full time work to part time, my panic attacks are less frequent and less severe. Sometimes, our bodies just know what's right.....ride with it and time will tell. I am sure that all will go well and you will be ace!
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