Hi Sylk. Thank you so much for your speedy reply!
I take 75 mg of Effexor (the ordinary, not the XR) in the morning. My last antidepressant worked for about five years although I struggled on for another two years with it getting less and less effective. I was on Dothiepin which is not available in the U.S. It is a "cousin" of Amitryptiline. I still take 50 mg of Dothiepin (now renamed Dosulepin) at night because it gives me a good night's sleep. So I am on an SNRI and a tricyclic - which is unusual but it works for me! As you say, we are all different with drugs.
I am sorry to hear you are going through huge stressors - I do hope they disappear soon. Cymbalta was officially passed by the medical board in England as a treatment for anxiety in February this year. When I heard I thought "oh good, that is one I haven't tried if the Effexor stops working!!"
All the very best to you and your new little one.