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Date Joined Oct 2007
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   Posted 11/18/2007 5:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi All

I usually post on the GERD board because that's my biggest problem right now but that's followed right up with anxiety issues that I take meds for. The Holidays always make me spasm!!! (Last year was a nightmare) This year I promised myself I'd plan as far ahead as I could and wouldn't freak out when my husband's family changed plans on us like they did last year the day before Christmas (I almost killed them). Just thinking about makes my anxiety level increase. They have a habit of making plans a few weeks out...which is great because you can plan a head...then the day before the event they call you up and change everything. I decided this year I'm not putting up with it. I'm sticking to the original plans and if they change them last minute too bad they can just be ticked at me. Afterall, out of everyone in the family we are the only two adult working household everyone else has a stay at home Mom, Dad, or is an adult who doesn't work full time. Go figure.

Well just thought I'd share and drop in a say Hi. Trying to gear up...breath some yoga or something in preparation.... :) Please feel free to vent to me if you need to.


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   Posted 11/18/2007 5:25 PM (GMT -6)   

Hey there,

I appreciate your frustration but may I suggest that you maintain your cool and say: “I’m  having Christmas  here as planned.  I’m sure you  will  enjoy your  other plans. We would have loved to have  you  at our home for the day. Since that’s no longer an option, your son  and I will celebrate the holiday with each other.  I appreciate the call  and wish you a very blessed holiday .”

Do not anticipate that things will fall apart because they are changing their plans, just continue to celebrate with the one you love the most.

Happy Holidays.


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   Posted 11/19/2007 2:17 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree....anticapatory anxiety will cause more problems then necessary .......IF they change plans then you just stick to your guns and go with what you decided and what plans were....anxiety is high for normal ppl around this holiday so with added anxiety /panic issues and illnesses it will be all Hades blow out ........
It is great that you have decided not to have your anxiety pushed to limits like last year and I think you will have a fantastic and wonderful Christmas this year.........

All the best and this is a good place for venting about holidays lol ..............thanks for the thread

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   Posted 11/20/2007 6:14 AM (GMT -6)   
We have a pretty good scheme for our family. My son is the only grandchild in the family at the moment so as you can imagine everyone wants a piece of him so what we do is allot Xmas Eve, Xmas Day and Boxing Day to one each and then the following year we all swap round. The only spanner in the works is that now my sister has her own place so we have 4 families to fit in to 3 days. So every 4th year, one family gets Xmas off. This year Xmas Eve is at my Mother in Laws, Xmas Day is at my sisters and Boxing Day is at my house. The rules are that the host provides everything including drinks and if you want to bring something extra along you can. This way everyone knows where they are going and there are no rows. Suits us down to the ground and we can all have a merry Christmas!
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