This has really taken it's toll on my family; my husband and two teenage daughters. I feel so responsible and full of guilt, it's starting to suffocate me--this loss of control.
Usually, surgeons like to wait at least 3 months before reconnecting to give you time to heal. I don't think there is a maximum time limit - I know people who have been reconnected years after their initial ostomy surgery.
Please don't feel guilty about what's happening to you - you have no control over it. Easier said than done, I know. But think of the situation in reverse. What if it was one of your daughters going through this? Would you want her to feel guilty about it? I'm betting you wouldn't and I'm also betting that they wouldn't want you to feel guilty either.
Good luck.
Shaz
I'm not a complete idiot - some parts are missing!
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Ileostomy for 27 years since I was 10 years old, due to UC.
I had a total colectomy in 1989 at the Cleveland Clinic. My surgeon said that I cannot have pull down surgery because Crohn's patients usually have ulcers form where the new connection is. So, this is permanent for me. I'm surprised to hear that you can be reconnected.
Sherrine
I've had Crohns now for over 20 years. I had a sub-total colectomy performed on 10/26/05. My surgeon said that the healing period is 6-12 weeks before reconnection. I am scheduled for my reconnection and take down of my ileostomy in 6 days (12/13/05). My surgeon stated that there are less problems with adhesion at 12 weeks but that surgery done sooner is manageable. I'd seek a second opinion if I were you.