Hi , I am new here. I just started going to the Fibro message board. I live with my parents, my dad is 80 and my mom is 68.
My concern is my mom. Within the last year she has shown signs of Alz. Someof her long term memory is good. But her short term is terrible.
yesterday we got our usual shipment of oranges, I put the bill where it belongs and put the oranges away. I showed her how nice they were and we had a talk about how long she has been getting them from that company.
Today she saw the bill and was yelling that they billed us for something we didn't get. I didn't know how to react. Dad heard it and gently told her we did get them. She got mad and didn't belive us, I had to show her. She then got real quite and went to her room.
Things like this happen everyday. My dad talked to her about getting tested for Alz and she got so upset she even mentioned divorce.
I am 47 and I take care of them. I am very worried. Can some one advise, please.
What kind of tests do they do, begining signs etc.
Thank you, Kim
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Someday nature will takeover and you'll need a friend.
I am certainly no expert on Alz, but my dad has been declining with Alz for the last few years.
I believe that initially the doctor (neurologist?) attempts to rule out other causes for the memory problems. Alzhiemer's can't be diagnosed directly, it is a disease where they have to rule out other stuff and connect the dots so to speak.
Dad also has done several memory tests where the doc gives list of items and the patient is asked to repeat them a few minutes later. They do several tests like that.
You would do really well to contact your local Alzheimer's Association ASAP. They are a wealth of informaiton and you'll wish you had contacted them sooner.
Keep us posted!
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Kim .......Hi and Welcome to HW ..........As Rosie has said you can and should contact the Alzheimers society........They are there to help out people such as us who are the caregivers and the patient as well .My Mom has AD and I look after her ,it is very hard on my dad to see Mom at times ..........I was a geriatric nurse but it still breaks my heart to see my Mom with this DD......Please keep us posted on how you make out okay ....Take carew and God Bless ............Lyn
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Oh Kim . . . that is great news. It's always best if the patient is her own advocate at the doc's office. I hope the doc is able to figure things out . . . and I hope it is something treatable.
I have to tell you that best bit of advice after dealing with Dad's alzheimers (my first encouter with the disease) is to enjoy your mom each day exactly the way she is that day. I have spent some beautiful days sitting with Dad while mom gets a break. I am building memories which I could never have thought possible given that he has this dreadful disease. I actually feel sadened for my siblings who just don't spend time with him.
Keep us posted Kim!!
Blessings!In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
UCTD(Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease), Hashimoto's, Plantar Fasciitis, Inflamatory Arthritis, High BP, GI Inflamation, Diverticuloses
.......Always Rosie ...........Could not had said it better myself......we make memories each new day dont we ......most great,some wellllllllll well they are not too bad lol......we will be here for you when you need us ok so keep coming back and posting and let us know how you are . Your Mom is obviosly scared for herself and went ahead for herself a strong woman ,I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers okat ......God Bless .....Lyn
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So sorry to hear of your suspicions about your Mom. My husband suffered from dementia...I guess we all call it Alzheimer's because it sounds better and people understand what you're referring to. Alzheimer's is only one of several types of dementia. Symptoms are all very similar.
With regard to your Mom's short-term memory: I found it worked best not to argue with or correct my husband...or try to adjust him to reality. Just agree with what your Mom says whenever you can. (She'll forget in 3 minutes anyway.)
You have to learn to lie judiciously. It reduces her anxiety and your frustration
Please, please, if she asks about a deceased love one (like her mom or dad,) don't correct her. She'll experience hearing about a death as if it were the first time and probably cry.
If she wants "to go home," just put her in the car and drive her around the block. By the time you get home, she'll recognize the place. Or not. But it's worth a try.
Get a copy of "The 36-Hour Day" at your library or bookstore.
....I would like to Welcome you to this forum..........My Mom has AD and I find that I will correct her about most things .........I agree that I do not like to have her aggitated more than usual so we do things she enjoys ..........Sorry to hear of your hubby........you are special giving him your care,support and unconditional love thru this DD...........God Bless and keep us poted on how you are ........Lyn
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Thanks for your welcoming words, Lyn. My husband died 9 years ago...and I'm just now coming out of my funk. He was ill for about 10 years...the first 5 I was swimming in denial. I have a lot of experience I'd be happy to share. Most important is FIND A GOOD SUPPORT GROUP!!!
The ID bracelet gave me a lot of peace of mind. I don't think you order thru the Alzheimer's Assn. anymore, but they can direct you to the right place.
Also, we had 2 teenage sons at the time...there's not a lot of support out there for kids.
It's difficult, isn't it, to restructure your relationship with someone you always looked up to...like your mother or your father or your husband. It's important to spend time meditating on that so you can reorganize your brain. Sometimes you really want to lose your temper. It helps to look at the humorous side. My husband once asked me why I had a picture of his grandfather in my living room. (Remembered Grandpa...but didn't remember me.) I thought it was cute. He also asked me to marry him almost every day. That was pretty neat.
I cannot keep your feet from stumbling..........I can only offer my hand that you might grasp it and not fall...........Lyn
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Only after the last tree has been cut down...only after the last river has been poisoned...only after the last fish has been caught.....Only then will you find that money cannot be eaten.......
I cannot keep your feet from stumbling..........I can only offer my hand that you might grasp it and not fall...........Lyn
Moderator for Crohn's,Anxiety/ Panic and Alzheimers
Only after the last tree has been cut down...only after the last river has been poisoned...only after the last fish has been caught.....Only then will you find that money cannot be eaten.......
I cannot keep your feet from stumbling..........I can only offer my hand that you might grasp it and not fall...........Lyn
Moderator for Crohn's,Anxiety/ Panic and Alzheimers
Only after the last tree has been cut down...only after the last river has been poisoned...only after the last fish has been caught.....Only then will you find that money cannot be eaten.......
I didnt know you were not eating what has been going on with you ...........you know better than that ..........hope things are not too bad for you hun,is Larry still at his job and liking it.......keep me posted will you .....Take care ......God Bless .......Lyn
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I cannot keep your feet from stumbling..........I can only offer my hand that you might grasp it and not fall...........Lyn
Moderator for Crohn's,Anxiety/ Panic and Alzheimers
Only after the last tree has been cut down...only after the last river has been poisoned...only after the last fish has been caught.....Only then will you find that money cannot be eaten.......