Hello everyone, I wonder if you can help me figure somthing out.
My sister is now 55 and she was diagnosed when she was 50 with what the Doctors called "early dementia" I have asked if it is Alzeimers that she has ,and the Doctor said that it was a "Alzeimers type" of Dementia. I still feel a bit confused about that to be honest,but anyway,to the main reason for my post.
My sister lives with her Husband and Daughter. Six months ago my sister didnt seem to be able to think enough for herself to get up and get her self so much as a drink of water. Now suddenly over the last few weeks she has started making a cup of tea in the mornings for her self and her Daughter. She has also started to do some washing up and she had stopped doing that as well at one time. Can this possably mean that my sisters problems could be due to somthing other than Alzeimers?
I personaly believe that a lot of my sisters problems have been made worse by her husband. He drinks alot. I am sorry to say but he is horrid. My sister blocked the toilet because she used kitchen paper instead of toilet tissue and instead of reasuring her and telling her not to worry instead he shouted at her and made her feel stupid. This has led to my sister now putting dirty toilet tissue in the bin(wherever she is)instead of her flushing it down the toilet. interesting I think that according to my sisters daughter,Husband is still in bed and not watching over her while she makes the morning cup of tea. My self and my other 2 sisters spend what time we can with her and make sure that she gets good meals and take her for days out etc,but there is only so much we can do when we have our own lives and problems to deal with.
I have spoken with sociel workers about my sisters husband but they just say "well we cant kick him out of his own house" I just feel that without her husband my sister could be 50% better than she is. Do you think it is possable that her problems are more due to being trodden into the ground for so many years by her husband rather than it being Alzheimers that she has?
Sorry to go on, but any thoughts on this would be apreciated.
Sue
Sue ...........this sure sounds like it has that possibility BUT I would have the doc do some more tests and then you would know if it is from abuse or actually alzheimers ............was her hubby ever physically abusive to her causing her to hit her head alot ?I ther living in that environment is not good for her at all but what are you suppossed to do .......does her daughter live with her ? Snowy will prob be better at advice for you on this one but I would think she needs more tests and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers ............God Bless ..........Lyn
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Thank Lyn.
Yes my niece does still live at home with her Mom,although she is in her mid twenties and Engaged so she isn't going to be there too much longer. She is the one that makes sure my sister has her tablets at night and takes her shopping etc on the days that the rest of us can't help out.
Too be honest my sisters husband will only go as far as the local shop to get his paper and booze so if the rest of us don't make sure that Stella(my sister)gets to her Doctors apointments etc,well I just don't know what would happen. But her Husband is the one that is claiming the care alowence. It is wrong,it should be going to my niece not him. He always seems to put on a show whenever a social worker goes around to see them and I am sure that they don't believe that he is as bad as we have told them he is.
I will do what you suggested Lyn and ask if Stella can have more tests. I will let you know what happens.
Thanks again
Sue