IS THIS FEELING NORMAL

Diseases & Conditions Depression
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AFTERNOON ALL,
       THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO READ MY VENT AND QUESTION.   I HAVE CROHNS DISEASE, BUT THATS NOT MY PROBLEM, THE DEPRESSION SIDE IS KILLING ME, I CANT KEEP GOING ON WITH THE HAPPY FACE, I HAVE THESE FEELINGS, WHICH I KNOW IS WRONG, BUT CANT HELP IT, DAYS I HATE MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY BECAUSE THEY ARE NORMAL, NOT HURTING, NO PAIN, NO SICKNESS, I NEED TO KNOW IF THAT IS NORMAL TO HAVE THOSE FEELINGS, IM SO DEPRESSED THAT I DONT WANT TO GO OUT, DONT WANT ANYONE TO COME TO THE HOUSE, I DONT EVEN ANSWER THE PHONE, THIS IS NOT FAIR ON MY HUSBAND AND CHILDREN, BUT ITS THE WAY IM NOW, HAPPY PILLS DO HELP A BIT BUT MAKE ME SLEEP. PLEASE I NEED TO KNOW IF WHAT IM FEELING IS NORMAL.
 
TEDDY
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How long have you been on meds? I started Lexapro because it really was a last resort. I felt horrible and didnt enjoy anything or anyone anymore. It was hard to get through the side effects at the beginning. I felt tired all the time and had to lay down a lot. (not me at all). I also got pain in my head and lacked ebergy. That has all gone away. It took about two months. I almost gave up and even called the Dr. to start weaning off. I am so glad I stuck it out,becasue I have all my energy back and feel great. My husband is thrilled with how calm I remain and how much I laugh at everything now. Good Luck.
Tabbee
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HELLO TABBEE,
THANK YOU FOR YOUR NOTE, ITS GOOD TO HEAR THAT YOU ARE FEELING BETTER, HOPE SOME OF THAT RUBS OFF ON TO ME. ON MEDS FOR JUST OVER A WEEK, I KNOW THEY TAKE TIME TO WORK, I JUST WASNT SURE THAT WHAT IM FEELING IS RIGHT. THANK YOU AGAIN, KEEP WELL.

TEDDY -- DOWNUNDER
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Hi Teddy.  YES, you are normal :-) .  These feelings are called self pity and I also indulge in them.  Unless I'm not normal also...lol  tongue  .   I know that crohn's disease is painful and pain wears a person down physically and mentally.  I'm in the process of being tested for crohn's.

I don't know how long you've been taking anti-depressants for but they take 4-6 weeks for the full effect and if you are past that and still tired, could you switch to a different pill or the time of day you are taking them.  Oh, another thought is that crohn's can cause fatigue so maybe it's not from the pills at all.

Another thing that may help is therapy of some sort.  A crohn's or chronic illness support group with others who understand or a counsellor who you can talk it out with.  Either way Teddy, try not to be hard on yourself as there are many who think/feel just like you do. 

 

God Bless, Softy

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THANK YOU SOFTY FOR YOUR NOTE AND KIND WORDS, I THINK TO THAT NOT ONLY DO WE HAVE CROHNS N DEPRESSION, BUT MY GP THINKS I HAVE IBS, I JUST DONT WANT ANYTHING ELSE, ALSO I LOST MY TWIN SISTER DUE TO CANCER, AND THAT IS ALWAYS IN THE BACK OF MY MIND.
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Hi Teddy. It is rough to start the meds, especially with other meds. I have had UC for 15 years and have had some pretty nasty flares. This contributed heavily to my depression. I am extremely active and it was horrible to be sick all the time. You have a lot on your plate. I wish you the Best and will keep you in my prayers.
Tabbee
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((((Teddy))) I hope the happy pills start working for you soon. As you read in my post, I'm now on my third type of anti-depressant and it seems to finally be helping. It is trial and error to find what works best for you. Yes this feeling is normal, but things will get better.

Thoughts & prayers are with you,

Jon
 
"The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret."
-- Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-81), Swiss philosopher, poet

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One more thing I was thinking about Teddy, can you get out in the fresh air and sunshine for a little walk everyday.  This helps me.  I also do volunteer work which puts me in contact with others so I don't over focus on myself.  I tend to shut everything and everybody out at times.

It's heartbreaking hearing about your sister.  Do you have any good friends (or your husband) that you can open your heart to.  I find talking and sharing my true feelings eases my burdens.  A journal would probably work too.

Hope you find relief soon Teddy.  There are brighter days ahead :-)

God Bless, Softy

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AFTERNOON SOFTY,

AT THE MOMENT I AM BUSY PUTTING TOGETHER MY SONS FAREWELL DINNER FOR YEAR 6, SO THAT KEEPS ME GOING, BUT WITH ALL THE RUNNING AROUND THAT IS NEED IT IM TIRED ALL THE TIME, BUT IM LOVING IT, YES DOING SOMETHING OTHER THEN THE CD IS GOOD. MY HUSBAND IS A VERY GOOD LISTENER, BUT WITH ALL THE TALKING, IT JUST DOESNT CHANGE THINGS, TIME IS THE KEY. I HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH YOU, AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS .

TAKE CARE
TEDDY.
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HEY FAMILY GUY,

THANK YOU FOR YOUR WORDS, GOOD TO READ THAT YOUR MEDS ARE WORKING, HOPEFULLY FOR A LONG TIME. EACH DAY I FEEL A LITTLE BETTER, THINGS WILL BE DIFFERENT AFTER CHRISTMAS.
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Hi teddy,
It is very normal to feel those feelings. Heck, I would feel that way to if I was in your situation. Its almost like watching people play in a pool or go out and have a good time and you are restricted from going with them. Or like being in jail and not being able to get out and get air when you want it. That is totally understandable. Everyone here cares about you and so do I we will always be here for you if you need us.
Hugs,
Depresedandlonly