another miscarriage is occuring

Diseases & Conditions Cystic Fibrosis
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Well i just found out today that most likely im heading for another miscarriage. i dont know how to react. i dont. if i was able to carry i woulda had to got a abortion. why cant i have any more kids? i know its dangerous to even consider being a mom of 2 with cf but i love kids so why does it make me sad that i cant have any more. im so confused. i love my son i have now. and im so thankful that he is a healthy baby. but how many 22 yr olds have already had 2 miscarriages? can anything else go wrong ontop of having ins problems..another stressful emotional week. sooner or later the docs are gonna be adding protaz to my list of meds...i feel like such a loser. all i wanted to do was have a kid by my bf to show him how much i love him but yet i cant even do that..:( but atleast i wont have to live the rest of my life(who knows how long thatll be) with the memory of killing an unborn child..
Sorry for vent
Tricia
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Hi Tricia, don't ever be sorry about having to vent.I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriage. It's not easy. I had amiscarriage then I gave birth to my son, Had 5 miscarriages & a stillborn before finally giving birth to my daughter, so indeed I do know how heartbreaking this is for you.After my daughter was born I had to have an emergency hysterectomy. As painfull as it is, you do at least have the one baby, your son. Love him & cherish him & be thankfull for him. There sadly women out ther who will never know what it is like to have a child of their own.I'm not trying to be cruel, I just want you to see the one Blessing you do have.All that I went thru was between the ages of 17 & 24.My uteus kept tipping & then I got so I was always having bleeding problems & finnally developed intra uterine cancer. Ther are many other ways to prove to your b.f. you love him.. I'm sure he already knows you do. Your not a loser honey, this is not your fault. I'll continue to pray for you & my heart truly does go out to you. Hugs. later....

lerie

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Thanks lerie,

Sorry its just been stressful! i totally agree with ya tho and trust me i cherish the son i have now with everything i have. he means the world to me and i love him with all my heart. As for my bf, he doesnt really want me to have any more kids hes afraid of "losing" me during labor but i want more kids. im willing to take that chance. i love kids. kids are important to me. So when he finds out i was preg and im heading into a miscarriage hell be happy atleast..<shrugs>

take care

tricia

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Hi tricia,You can prove to your b.f. you love him by keeping your self alive for him & sparing him all the pain he would have to face if anything should happen to you & sparing him the guilt of knowing it was his baby that took you away from him.I do know how you feel tho. I'm sending you HUGS. I'll be praying for you & my heart truly goes out to you. Take care sweetie & God Bless. later....

lerie

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Tricia,

Know that we are here for you during your trying times. Leri has a very good point....you have the most precious gift right there with you, at this very moment. You never have to prove to a bf, husband, livin, whom ever.....that having children will make him love you more or you love him more.

Hugs!

Kathy, mom to identical twin boys with CF (9yrs), daughter 20, grandaughter 2 1/2, one on the way!
 
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i know and your right about not having to prove to my bf, and everything else yall said, however it was just important to me. i know it doesnt make sense on why the miscarriage is even affecting me cuz i woulda had to get an abortion ne wayz doctors orders, but yet theres something inside me that tells me i woulda made it ya no and they told me most likely it woulda been a girl. my entire life ive dreamed of having a baby girl of my own. i guess in away of knowing it woulda been a girl is what hurts. i dont know. everything will be ok just like everything else that has happened this last few years, itll pass, ya no. Well i really cant write much more. i still dont feel very well. im going to my docs monday maybe im coming down with something again.

Thanks for the support and yall take care

have a great healthy weekend

Tricia

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Hi Faithful, It does make sense why the miscarriage is affecting you sweetie. I do understand that one. There is nothing I can say here to make you feel better, I know that, & I'm certainly not going to say it's for the best. I used to hate it when people said that to me. But God save you the additional pain of having to torment & pain of having an abortion. I know you will mourn over your baby whether it was a boy or a girl. A girl makes it worse, but sweetie you have your son & it sounds like you have a good man there that loves you without jepardizing your life. sounds to me like your more important to him than anything else. Focus on him & your son right now. This will help. You have lots of support here honey when you need it. Know this. My heart goes out to you & my prayers are with you. Take care. later....

lerie

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Hi Faithfull I haven't heard from you & I am a little worried about you Please let me know how you are doing. HUGS. later...

"There is at least one good thing in each and every day we just have to find it and if we look hard enough we will.Somedays we just have to look a little harder than others,but its alway's there."
 
 
lerie