Any abuse is bad; one is not worse than, less than, or as bad as another.
What happens is that each of the different kinds of abuse causes specific problems. The specifics of the abuse e.g. if there is shock, intimidation, humilitation, threats etc., adds twists to those problems.
What happens next is where the twists become knots. This is just my opinion: I believe that carrying the obediance pressures, the defences, and the angers into adulthood prevents growth. Growth is learning adult ways to handle things, learning and using new coping skills, and maturing in all areas of life.
If this is not caught and averted before a person has to get by in the adult world, it cripples--not like making a person unable to perform--but having difficulty in some area of life. AND then everything needs to get straightened out, which makes it ever so much more tough, but never impossible.
Although I went the long way and worked through everything that had ever bothered me, deep down I believe there is some sort of short cut, even for adults with a bunch of knotted up issues.
You are right. Emotional abuse is just a damaging.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.
Hi I just want to tell you that I realy feel sorry for your childhood. i think all problems comes from childhood. I mean , I have anxiety- shy and blush since I was a little kid, some times I was just wondering is it any way can some one just hypnos me that I will be just like every one who can talk to people with no blush and go set at the restorant with no worry that someone will start talk to be and I will blush I think everythink is comes from childhood. I wish you the best in get over all this problems. Svetlana